Can you be settled with being unsettled?

Gaining a sense of security in a word that is in constant turmoil is not easy. Particularly when you want this sense of safety to stem from your own creation rather than settling in with any job that comes along. It seems to me that it is a challenge for us all.

Most people never even get in touch with and an understanding of their own needs of creative self-expression through various activities. One of these would surely provide -i n the long run – a sense of security but we too soon settle with anything that seems to give us the funds to fulfill our immediate needs.

How about long term (job) satisfaction though? Most young people in their early 30’s I know of are already mortgaged up to their eyeballs and have at least one kid on the way to ensure their slavery for the next 20 years to come. They have no other choices left but paying the bills. Neither do they have the time and energy to discover their options for fulfilling and meaningful ‘money-making-schemes’.

Staying unsettled in an ever changing world is hard because we are assumed to be responsible and contributing citizens. However, finding the way to keep on searching until we find contentment in our daily life and activities is a giant win. Living a life created by our passions and inherent abilities is the most satisfying way of living.

Recently, I saw a film about a young man – Sean Aiken – who took on aprx. 50 different jobs in order to gain insight into his talents, weaknesses and interests. HE was in search for his passions. His story assured me once again that journeying for meaning is worth the time and effort. Looking for and finding meaningful endeavours is the greatest achievement we can attain. Not everyone is born to become the next Virgin-Branson entrepreneur genius. Regardless, we can still create a life that expresses who we truly are and communicates our valued treasures.

I have never settled. I keep on moving. I chose to engage. I stay involved until the project/job/collaboration is meaningful and fulfilling for all parties involved. When it is done, I am willing to let go and open to new adventures.

See intro talk to the film here

Sean Aiken – Finding Your Passion

Sean Aiken discusses his 52-week job project, wherein he worked a different job every week for a year to find his passion. Here he shares what he learned from his year of collecting experience and advice, emphasizing that the important thing is not to find just a job but to discover our true gifts and our life’s work.

Other interesting talks

50 jobs 50 states

How to find meaningful work? BE CONNECTED, STAY CONNECTED!

On a personal note

When I was a child, I was told that I was odd because I had ‘strange’ ideas that nobody could seemingly understand. Plus, I lived in a rather gray environment called socialistic communism or something similar. Colourlessness was the norm and you were expected to conform.

I was not one who easily left a question unanswered, though. So, I decided early on that if the world around me is too scared to answer my bold questions I would go and find my answers myself. And so I was off. I left my home, I left my city, finally, I left my country in search of answers.

The most surprising discovery I have made over the years was that our answers to any existential question are answered from within. I spent much time reading clever books and looking for someone to answer my queries until I realized that the only question I was truly searching an answer for was ‘who am I?’ Finding the answer to this very basic question opened up the whole world to me. It is sometimes too big to bear! Knowing myself, my true values, inherent abilities and what I stand for as a human being gave me complete freedom in choosing my experiences.

I do not live a perfect life. I do not believe it exists, anyway. I live a life of insights and discoveries. It is a magical world both inside and out. I am still a girl in progress. 🙂 My main focus in life is to find the most fulfilling ways to express my multifaceted being. One such layer is my caring nature that wants me to support others to gain insights into their own extraordinary being.

What is Passion anyway?

Last week I was working with a couple of young people in their late 20’s and early 30’s. Ultimately, their basic question was ‘What shall I do with my life?’ I was shocked to hear this question because they both had opportunities for development in their careers and earnt a decent salary that allows them to travel and have fun. It was also revealed that both of them are well educated and on a career path that can be forecast for the next 5-10 years. Dream lives, aren’t they?

Except that none of them seemed happy with their lives. According to their sharing they were both lost and confused. As we continued our discussions, it soon turned out that neither of them were sure if they followed their passions and dreams or were just on automatic pilot.

So, we started talking about what their passions might be in order to see if they were on the ‘right’ path or not. And this is basically where our conversation got halted The young man shared that though he really liked being an engineer and having career prospects to strive for, he does not feel ‘whole’ and contented. He admitted that he could not wait for the week to end. Neither, does the money he earns make him feel happy. He did not feel inspired, he said.


The young lady talked about how much she felt out of place at work and bored though her job was actually stressful. Even though she was admittedly passionate about sports and living a healthy lifestyle, it does not seem to make up for the stress and boredom she feels at work. At the same time, they both shared how grateful they were for the opportunities they have had so far and the comfort they live in.

To my observation, however, neither of them had any real idea what ‘being passionate’ meant. So we started exploring who they are in their uniqueness and what that individuality requires them to ‘do’ in order to feel whole and contented.

Passion is a funny word. Do you know that it actually stems from the Latin word for ‘pain and suffering’? In the Bible, the Passion of the Christ was his crucifixion, his final great deed for humanity, according to scholars. In my understanding passion is ‘great enthusiasm in serving self and others with inherent (unique) abilities and a sense of commitment to make that happen’.

What I can say from my own experience is that I am the happiest when by serving others I actually serve myself.

And you, what are you passionate about? What are your greatest strength and unique abilities that can serve you and others at the same time?

It started …

Well … when I was a child, I was told that I was odd because I had ‘strange’ ideas that nobody could seemingly understand. Plus, I lived in a rather grey environment called socialistic communism or similar. Colourlessness was the norm and you were expected to conform. I was not one who easily left a question unanswered, though. So, I decided early on that if the world around me is too scared to answer my bold questions I would go and find my own answers myself. And so I was off. I left home, then I left the city, finally, I left the country in search of answers.

The most surprising discovery I made over the years was that our answers to any existential question is answered within our own selves. I spent much time reading clever books and looking for someone to answer my queries until I realised that the only question I was truly searching an answer for was ‘who am I?’ Finding the answer to this very basic question opened up the whole world to me. It is sometimes too big to bear! Knowing myself, my true values, inherent abilities and what I stand for as a human being gave me complete freedom in choosing my experiences.

I do not live the perfect life. I do not believe it exists. I live a life of insights and discoveries. It is a magical world both inside and out. I am still a ‘girl in progress’.  🙂 

My main focus in life is to find the most fulfilling ways to express my multifaceted being. One such layer is my caring nature that wants me to support others to gain insights into their own extraordinary being.

How about you? What is your story?

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Children of the self-absorbed

Nina Brown has written an amazing book called the Children of the Self-Absorbed. If you feel that you lack self- efficacy, self-esteem, and/or self- confidence I suggest you have a look at this video below and if you can read the book. The book is full of exercises that can support you gain awareness of your life choices in terms of your relationship with your parent(s).

It is often that we feel unworthy of having a magnificent and joy-filled life . Where does that sense of unworthiness stem from? Nina Brown invites you to have a look at your relationship with your family of origin ad investigate the narcissistic behavioural patterns resent there.