‘My Bucket-List’ Coaching Program
A SPECIALIZED RECREATIONAL ACTIVITY PROGRAM FOR THE 60+
The program focuses on maintaining/regaining feeling of well-being via developing our personal-self, spiritual-self and physical-self through doing fun exercises that requires more than just passive participation.
Az ‘Én Bakancs Listám’ Időskorúak Életvezetési Programja
Our body decays by the nature of our system however ’who we are inside’ of our decaying body does not need to fade. We can stay vigorous and feel full of life in spite of our age or the state of our body. It is not necessary to spend most of our time at the doctors’ office or at a pottery making class waiting for time to pass, waiting for the ’end’ to come and release us from our ’feeling of trapped’. Despite of our age we can go out there and discover our heart’s desire and we can venture out and discover life’s mysteries – it is never too late to get happy.
Our body decays with the speed of our ‘belief-system’. When we buy into ‘the getting old’ mystery that is conveyed to us mostly by the medical profession along with the ‘how to keep our bodies young’ torture we sentence ourselves to attend doctors’ appointments until the rest of our lives. At the instances when we don’t feel too sick or too old, we attend numerous ‘passing the time’ workshops and classes so not to feel too useless or pointless.
Have you ever considered that your life did not stop at your children’s leaving home or when you finished your working-career? Becoming a pensioner is an amazing opportunity to become who you always wanted to be, to try the things you always felt drawn to, to discover and live your heart’s desire … It is never too late to have a happy childhood.
‘GET BUSY LIVING OR GET BUSY DYING’ … you decide.
What do you really feel like doing? In your heart of hearts what or who inspires you the most? Do you still dream of a magical journey ahead of you? Do you know that there are people out there who find their soul-mates or climb the Mont-Everest in their 70’s? Do you know of people who go to take a university course or enter different kinds of education in their 70’s? What prevents you from going for your dreams?
The program is designed to support you to get in touch with those long forgotten dreams and supports you to find the courage and inspiration to go for them. Our program intends to support you in three areas especially, these are: Personal and Mental Development, Physical Development and Spiritual Development; so you will feel strong enough to go for your wildest dreams.Trainers:
(This lady is in her 90's)
Top five regrets of the dying
A nurse has recorded the most common regrets of the dying, and among the top ones is ‘I wish I hadn’t worked so hard’. What would your biggest regret be if this was your last day of life?
There was no mention of more sex or bungee jumps. A palliative nurse who has counselled the dying in their last days has revealed the most common regrets we have at the end of our lives. And among the top, from men in particular, is ‘I wish I hadn’t worked so hard’.
Bronnie Ware is an Australian nurse who spent several years working in palliative care, caring for patients in the last 12 weeks of their lives. She recorded their dying epiphanies in a blog called Inspiration and Chai, which gathered so much attention that she put her observations into a book called The Top Five Regrets of the Dying.
Ware writes of the phenomenal clarity of vision that people gain at the end of their lives, and how we might learn from their wisdom. “When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently,” she says, “common themes surfaced again and again.”
Here are the top five regrets of the dying, as witnessed by Ware:
1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
“This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.”
2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.
“This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret, but as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.”
3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
“Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.”
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
“Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.”
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
“This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content, when deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.”
What’s your greatest regret so far, and what will you set out to achieve or change before you die?
Two years ago a young Singapore woman started her first Zumba Gold class for seniors who never exercised.
The class was so well received that she expanded the free fitness program and has attracted volunteers to conduct them at senior centers across Singapore.
“I used to be obsessed with cooking. It was all I thought about. I did cooking shows on the BBC. I wrote 27 cookbooks. I wrote a whole cookbook just about garlic. Then one night, I was editing the proofs for my 27th cookbook, when I picked up a marker and drew a mermaid on a piece of scrap paper. I looked at that mermaid, she looked at me, and I never thought about cooking again. Ever since that moment, I’ve thought about nothing but art. I was sixty years old when I made the switch. I’m not sure what caused it. It was either menopause, a psychotic break, or a muse bit me on the bum!”