Healing is a process, not a moment of enlightenment. In my experience this process has the following stages:
Stage one: Sitting with it – feeling the feelings and allowing the discomfort to rise
Stage two: Understanding – recognizing the wound, gaining insight, embracing the wound, the learning and the reaction with compassion
Stage three: Forgiving and releasing it all, allowing the wound to dissipate in forgiveness and self-love;
As a result of forgiveness and release, Divine Love fills the freed-up space and lifts us to a happier and peaceful existence
This may take years …