These one-word descriptors can be expanded into four-word sets of traits. Keep in mind that these are merely highlights and do not represent the full spectrum of each type.
Type One is principled, purposeful, self-controlled, and perfectionistic. Type Two is generous, demonstrative, people-pleasing, and possessive. Type Three is adaptable, excelling, driven, and image-conscious. Type Four is expressive, dramatic, self-absorbed, and temperamental. Type Five is perceptive, innovative, secretive, and isolated. Type Six is engaging, responsible, anxious, and suspicious. Type Seven is spontaneous, versatile, acquisitive, and scattered. Type Eight is self-confident, decisive, willful, and confrontational. Type Nine is receptive, reassuring, complacent, and resigned.
The above are the very basic tenets of the nine types of the system of the Enneagram. Each type has its ‘at its best’ and ‘at its worst’ traits. These are the ‘bests’ of each type that make them unique and what we can appreciate about each of them. None of the types are better or worse than the other. We, humans, all have positive and negative personality traits depending on personal preferences and situations.
The system of the Enneagram is unique and helpful because it focuses on us finding our Core that dwells in our Divine nature and supports us to uncover it by gaining awareness of our fear based limitations.
“For millennia the discipline of self-knowledge was confined to philosophy and religion. Roman philosopher Plotinus believed that happiness was achieved by knowing our true self. And perhaps most famously, the seven sages of ancient Greece inscribed the phrase “know thyself” at the entry of the Temple of Apollo at Delphi, a mantra that Plato later reinforced in the teachings of Socrates. And though most people associate self-awareness with Buddhism, nearly every religious tradition recognizes its importance.”
Confucius advised that to govern others, one must first govern oneself. The Hindu Upanishads said that “enquiry into the truth of the Self is knowledge.” In the Jewish faith, self-knowledge has been called “the prerequisite for any self-improvement.” Avicenna, a tenth-century Muslim philosopher, wrote that “self-awareness is essential to the soul and [our] awareness of ourselves is our very existence.
He says Brexit will lead the way and allow other EU member countries to leave. He seemed particularly angry with the French and the German. He says The Brits will stop buying French and German products and that will be the end of the French champagne industry. I do not remember what the Brits will stop buying from the Germans. He is a hunter kind of fellow. Though he was born in the outskirts of London, he lives in Scotland.
Though he smiles a lot, he seems so angry all the time. He says he goes to China twice a year and loves Chinese food which is interesting because he does not seem to like foreigners. He loves his beer and wine. He loves his food, full stop.
He is an Enneagramm 9. A gentle anger-ball.
He seems like someone who was robbed of something early on and as a helpless and powerless reaction he extended this robbery onto a national scale.
He gives the impression of a great Brit of long-ago, an archaic British Empire believer. There is so much violent hatred in him. He is a man who believes in the righteousness of wars. He believes that the Brits deserve special treatment because European fields are full of fallen British soldiers. He is brutally nationalistic, uncompromising and unwavering. He is rigid and unforgiving.
He is actually scary as he finds every opportunity to get angry and prove how ignorant people are. At the same time he seems like a man who is respectful and supportive. He is also rather
scattered and absent-minded, probably, because he is constantly busy with being upset with something. He does not seem to be present at all. He can not see what’s in front of him, he is lost in some circle of childhood
trauma that prevents him just being. For him, events that occur around him are only there to prove how infantile, incapable and stupid humans are. I suspect, he is mostly angry with himself but his anger is mostly projected
Interestingly, even though, I found him rather scary because of him being full of prejudice and unfounded judgement, I felt a lot of compassion for him. I sensed a lot of hidden pain
of injustice and peaceless-ness.
There is not much else one can do with this man so full of blind rage but love him! : ) Sadly, though, whenever I meet a person like him there is nothing else I can do but run. My own anger is on the way to any constructive and kind discussions. I shut up and go. I love him from a distance.
NOTE: Though Enneagram type nines are called Peacemakers and mostly considered gentle bear-like creatures, similar to Winnie-the-Pooh, ENG9s are actually rather sulky, angry and resentful creatures. They have a heart of gold. They are protective and supportive friends. At the same time they often feel that they are not appreciated enough. Because they constantly deflect and avoid confrontation at any cost, they often react with sarcasm and with an edge to situations that they feel uncomfortable in.
As a result of Brexit and Trump’s Wall induced hatred spree, I found myself a pacifist wishing to be pacific.
I have read and listened to numerous advocates for ‘leave’ and ‘remain’. I do not know much about American politics, I just simply do not favour the guy with
the crazy hair-do!
And this is what it is really about: personal favourites and innate motivators.
Though, most of us are convinced that we can see the greater picture and form our opinion on what’s best for humanity, we all actually form our point of views based solely on our own deep-seated need for ‘something or other’.
In my case it is safety.
I am a pacifist because of the war-zone I grew up in. I lived with it, I lived in it and I eventually integrated it inside of me. As a result of that, I now believe that there is a way to live in peace by appreciating each other’s strengths and having compassion for our weaknesses. I feel comradely towards those who envision a world without ‘the good and the bad’ armoured. In this world of constant separation and comparison, I dream of understanding and embracing. Though it sounds enlightened and visionary, it is still just a personal opinion.
I do not know what the world needs.
It may as well need Brexit and Trump’s racist WW3 prep . Who am I to judge? I only know that I would feel safer in a world where people raised their heads off their daily distress and endless needs, looked into the eye of another and saw the unique beauty of God’s creation.
I know that my grand vision for humanity is utopistic and unreal, what’s more it causes me a great deal of distress. I often feel helpless and frustrated. In my desperation, I
judge others to be stupid and senseless in their pursuit for happiness*.
So, I launch myself into gear to fight human ignorance. My inner annoyance and resentment towards those who do not understand my grand vision leads me to a place where I sadly find myself
generating exactly the opposite of what I claim to stand for: war.
The challenges of the nonsensical decisions others often generate swirl a hurricane in my life. Instead of standing still and simply allowing the storm to pass, I attempt to stop it
or even reverse it. Fighting is just as foolish as the concept of righteousness.
There is only one way to peace*: finding it within, individually. At the same time, finding one’s inner calm means no lack of involvement. Peaceful warrior activists like Mother Theresa and Gandhi achieved greatness for many. Though, we are motivated by it, activism must stem from a sense of inner detachment of personal gain. Additionally, it needs to be accompanied with surrendering our moral superiority, embracing differences and knowing that we are all evolving in the process.
None of us knows what’s best but we can all peacefully strive for something greater: more peaceful, more embracing, kinder* …
Today, I was contemplating on my ideal clients. Who could they be?
Well, honestly, they are the kids!
Kids tend to be honest. When they are not sincere in their endeavours of getting what they want it is often because they, sadly, think they can only obtain it in the way than the way
they see their environment get it.
Adults fight change and try to be clever about it. They explain why it is silly what you suggest or simply ignore you. Whereas children are excited and curious about the new. They may
be afraid of trying something but if you can promise them to be there for them when the fear shows up, they will happily launch themselves into experimenting with anything.
Coaching is a process of investigating new things and gaining awareness of the feelings and results these new experiences provide.
During our Edu-Coaching sessions that were run for 9-13 year old kids in different countries, I quickly learnt how deep kids are willing to dive into in order to find their hidden treasures.
We are doomed. Looking at her, the way she retreats in fear, I understand how much we do not stand a chance in life. We were robbed as children of all our abilities by imbeciles. I cannot blame them either, though. There is a long line of abuse we were only a tiny part of. The result is lasting, however. We are here to observe our inevitable mortality and decay from a place of compete surrender.
No matter how angry I am at times at those who knowingly or not contributed to my dismay, there is only one way ahead: forgiveness and surrender.
My unforgiving-ness harms no other but my self. I keep myself stuck in a loop of horror and inconsolable despair. Until I fight for ‘justice’, for the wrong-doers to be punished,
I do nothing but recreate the pain and frustration of the long-ago.
I must understand that I can only be my own master if I let go of my grip on the past and surrender to the present. Only when I start seeing myself again in my own light, instead of gazing into some dimmed shadows, I will start having a chance in life.
But for now, I am an anger-ball who is only just learning to surrender to the reality of her existence – what there is, goes.