We tend to talk a lot about and so have a clear understanding of different issues in our lives.
We discuss meditation, talk about why mindfulness is so cool, or why self-awareness helps us become more successful.
BUT DO WE ACTUALLY DO THE WORK?
By reading and talking about something we do not ‘know it’. We gain a mental understanding of the topic but we do not have a personal experience of it, neither do we ‘own’ it.
Self-acceptance is one of such topics. Self-acceptance is something we ‘should’ do by practicing it and finding our the best way to go about it so to know we really ‘own’ it!
Mostly, we need to do the very things that we do not feel like doing because it is outside of our comfort-zone.
I would like to invite you to take this challenge and practice self-acceptance so you can experience it and own in.
The challenge will go on for a few days. Look for my posts daily to learn what you will do to practice and investigate what it is like for you to accept yourself.
It is Important to experience Self-Love and Acceptance. To learn to love ourselves unconditionally. We can free ourselves from the mind (judge and victim) and become who we came here to be. In self-acceptance, we can discover our gifts and begin to share these with the world. Until we focus into judging ourselves, it is unlikely that we can see and share our gifts. We can leave behind the negative thought processes and begin to vibrate a positive energy into our lives and the lives of those around us. When you discover the truth of who you are, you will no longer be attached to your pictures of perfect people or things to “make” you happy. Happiness will reveal itself gently in your life, and emerge from you…
“Emancipate yourself from mental slavery, none but ourselves can free our minds” Bob Marley
In the morning listen to this very short meditation, then do the tasks throughout the day. See them below.
For the next 24 hours, catch yourself when you are seeking validation from the external world, whether from the people or the things around you. Remember, that these don’t define who you are.
During the day find some time to this. Write down 5 qualities or character traits you appreciate about yourself and include a time when these came into play. Suggestion: you may want to listen to the meditation again before you start doing the task.
Over the next week, look for things you appreciate about yourself to add to this list.
In the evening, before you go to bed, watch this video and do 5 rounds of tapping with 5 different issues. Follow the instructions in the video.
I recently created a new class – it is rather a precise group – that I call Compassionate Insight. It focuses on using this tool – Compassionate Insight – to create betterrelationships with ourselves and others. As a result we can become happier and more contented regardless of the environment we find ourselves in.
At the links below read and listen more about my journey to compassion and what this tool comprises.
Creativity is essential and our God given gift. There is none without creativity, except that we do not use our sense of creativity because we were told otherwise. Listen to this video on the importance of creativity on our mental health.
Inner communication allows you to have a LIFE FULFILLED!
Can you answer the following questions?
Where did I come from?
Why am I here?
Where am I going?
Listen to this vlog
What is inner communication?
Me, Myself, and I
The three parts of the self have been described in many ways over the years. In my understanding: Me is the small-self or the inner-child that drives our actions. S/he provides us with the enthusiasm and stamina to act in the world.
As you become more like a little child you will be more connected to your inner kingdom. Remember?
And said, Verily I say unto you, Except ye be converted, and become as little children, ye shall not enter into the kingdom of heaven. Matthew 18:3
S/he is also the part of us that communicates with the higher-self, the I. As you connect to your basic-self – the ME-Self, you will understand the messages of the higher-self more. The Me-Self is playful, joyful, enthusiastic, and selfish (in a sweet and innocent way!). The I, the higher-self, communicates to the basic-self the ‘Divine messages’ of your true purpose and meaning, mostly through the action of Gratitude. Through Gratitude we are supported to open and allow the necessary changes to happen.
Myself, is the conscious self. The conscious self gains clarity on who ‘I truly am’ and ‘how to express that’ through the communication between the Me-self (the inner child) and the I-Self, the Higher self. With that, the conscious self will become aware of what direction to take in life. S/he gains answers to life affirming questions such as: What I really want? What direction do I want to take in my life? Why am I here?
With the awareness of all that, we can start taking greater responsibility for our happiness and living the life we meant to live.
Are you aware of the inner voices that run you life?Are these inner voices supportive of you and help you become happy or against you? It is essential that we become aware of these voices. Some of these are old voices of different relatives and people we grew up with. Some of these voices need to be turned off and dismissed so they will stop running our life into directions that is not supportive of us or our purpose in life.
The Inner Voices of Truth
These three selves described above have ‘inner voices’ that you want to become aware of. We often do not listen to their voices because we are trained as children to listened to the ‘adults’ around us. Until the age of 7, we are in touch with ourselves and able to hear and know what is happening inside of us though we may not have had the means to communicate all that to the outside world. Then we started losing this connection because we turned outside towards our environment and took on some of their views and opinions instead of ours.
As a result, other’s sometimes negative emotional voices started running our life.
In order to have a happy and purposeful life you will need to reconnect with your ‘true-selves’, hear their voices and start acting upon them.
What to do?
First of all, we must take the time to listen within, so to speak. In meditation, in silent prayer and in pracitsing mindfulness you can gain insight into the different voices or tapes that run your actions (reactions). As we go through our days we need to stop and become aware of who is talking or who is guiding our actions right now by asking the question: Who is talking to me right now? With listening we can now start distinguishing what messages work for us and what do not.
The ones that do not work for us, we must dismiss or deny them and then overrun them with positive affirmations. We will eventually stop running these tapes and the unsupportive reactions that we developed along them.
As a result of gaining insight into your inner communication, you will uncover your own voices: the Me, the Myself and the I. As the three selves within become freed from the debris of ‘others’ ideas’, they become more God-aware. You will be able to act upon the God-aligned inner voices conveyed by the ME-Self or the basic self.
Insight and Compassion
As we listen to our inner ‘tapes’ and look at mindfully our actions, reactions, and the words we use, we start becoming insightful of how we run our life and why. It can be a painful process to see how we limit ourselves. However, as soon as we become aware, we regain control over our choices.
As we walk the road of insight, we will soon discover that the child inside, the ME-Self, wants to be LOVED unconditionally. In return, s/he will provide us with the fuel to accomplish our dreams. So, if you want to have more energy and inner support for your ideas to become reality, it is imperative that you create a loving relationship with your inner-child, the ME-Self. You must embrace her/him with loving compassion, just as s/he is. Similarly, as you become aware of the limitations that you impose on yourself by listening to voices other than yours, you need to embrace these limitations and reactions with loving care or compassion.
Affirmations and Denials
bring alignment and clarity into our life. By practising affirmations and denials you start creating for yourself with knowing of yourself and of God. With affirmations you use the power of the spoken word to bring experiences forth for yourself that is life affirming and fulfilling. Affirmations are statements or small phrases that address an issue in your life with a sense of Gratitude.
Vision Boarding or Treasure Mapping
are visual affirmations. Whereas affirmations are usually written statements, vision boards or treasure maps are visual representations of affirmative statements. Similarly to written or spoken affirmations, they enable you to bring forth fulfilling experiences.
is a state of mind. The attitude of Gratitude brings forth life experiences that are both positive and supportive. In Gratitude, instead of focusing on lack and misery, we focus on the learning and God’s ever present Grace in our life. Similar to compassion, in Gratitude we embrace our life as it is. With that we become open and receptive to the goodness that is ever waiting for us to tap into.
Learn more about the programs I run to support you to develop your inner communication and insight:
Unity Maidenhead Saturday workshop, on Zoom May 20th, 10am – 5pm Cost: By donation Led by Rev Kimerie Mapletoft, Nancy Sandoval, Paul Mapletoft, Beth O’Connell and Ildiko Kudlik
So often our underlying self talk is, I am not enough! Is this something you are aware of for yourself? Often unconscious, it drives our thoughts, feelings and actions, ultimately working against us rather than for us.
What if our underlying self talk can become – I am enough! For in the sight of God, we are. And from this inner experience of ‘enough-ness’ even more of our true Self can come forth, guiding us on our life journey.
Join us as we share Unity ideas and practices that help us know, we are enough.
Fist of all, I would like to apologize for being ‘harsh’ on us. I meant to be ‘caring’ though it is tough-Love, I know! All that I am sharing on this page is based on my personal experiences and observations. I am sorry if you find some of my observations upsetting or ‘not nice’. My intention is to demonstrate how these different characters limit the greatness of who we truly are.
Our defence mechanisms are not ‘nice’ at all even though we may perceive some of them charming or eloquent. Limitation means that you are hiding the greatness of WHO YOU TRULY ARE behind layers of deceit, a persona that was created in response to a scary world when you were a child. Who you are is much greater than your false identity.
I am an ENG8, so I would like to ‘challenge’ you to shed off some layers of your fear based limitations by taking an honest look at your thinking patters and behaviours. So you can become the magnificent human being of who you are at your higher octaves!
Many people are living in an invisible fear trance that affects every aspect of their lives. This animation addresses these questions: 1. How did we get so scared? 2. How does fear change our relationships? 3. What does fear do to your body? 4. How can you change your fear to flow now? 5. Free of fear, what’s possible?
This time of year is full of opportunities to de-garbage and re-focus on Spirit, the Essence within. I am aware that when I make an effort to slow down and centre myself in the Silence, my life blossoms in many unexpected ways.
HOWEVER, it is soooo easy to slip into busy-mode and make ‘life’ and my to-do-list more important than my spiritual being. So …
Today on the 28th November 2021, we started the 40 days until Orthodox Christmas Day on the 6th January.
We celebrate Christmas on the 25th December which is about half way to the Orthodox Christmas Day in January. Also, form today we are observing Hannuka for a week.
I like the idea of Nativity Fast. There are many ways to understated ‘fasting’. I look at it thorough the lens of cleansing. I think , I will use the next 40 days to cleanse my consciousness from ‘garbage’.
Interestingly, this time of year, I am also crazy busy. It seems that I am somehow wishing to be more Spirit-centered but I am also afraid of it. Sowing down and sitting in the silence also means that I need to face what’s bothering me or I am afraid of. Though it is uncomfortable it is also a great opportunity to release all that and re-centre myself in the peace and calm of the world of Spirit.
So, I decided to do a 40-day spiritual cleansing. I have also promised myself to make it manageable so I will actually do it.
Starting today, I will spend at least half an hour every day with nourishing myself Spiritually. I will experiment with different creative and artistic ways and will report on them.
Today I meditated for an hour so to start the process off. 🙂 TICK. Honestly, it was hard. I spent most of it either doozing or swimming in endless thoughts.
At the 2008 Serious Play conference, designer Tim Brown talks about the powerful relationship between creative thinking and play — with many examples you can try at home (and one that maybe you shouldn’t).
In this video, you will learn how to name feelings and locate, describe, welcome and match sensations. You will also discover what wisdom your emotions have to offer.