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Standing up
I am living at a place right now where people do not really address their ‘problems’ with each another. Instead, they chose to feel upset, blame each other’s insensitivity to their problems, and expect each other to intuitively respond to their hurt or upset and resolve it. This general attitude creates a ripple effect where most people feel very uncomfortable, unheard, uncared for, and angry. It is lovely to live here, hahaha! 🙂
I am aware, however, that me being here is a fantastic opportunity to learn something that is essential for both my well-being and happiness. It is communicating with integrity and authenticity.
It is not particularly difficult for me to stand up for myself and to confront another person about something I don’t agree with or I don’t like. However, it very difficult to say all that in a way that I will be heard. Being angry is easy for me. Communicating my upset, hurt, dislike, disagreement in a way that is rounded and is not accusatory is hard for me. I have learnt from the best! 🙂 When I tell people what I don’t like, they always get upset. I understand that it is because I use a tone that is reprimanding.
I often swing between letting others get away with things that I totally don’t agree with and allow them to take advantage of me or I scream their heads of in my accumulated fury.
It literally takes me days sometimes to collect my real feelings and thoughts from under my anger and string it up in a way that they are informative, honest and unattached.
The problem is, you see, that in my upset by others’ behaviour that they are mostly completely unaware of, I get utterly lost in my own emotions which makes me incapable of communicating my Truth.
Standing up for myself does not mean that I am in the ‘right’ and allowed to pour all my upset and anger over the other person. It means that I have something to communicate that is important for me ‘unattached’ to the result which is the other person’s response. At the same time, I need to stay open to the fact that the other person may have something to say in response.
The key is, as I am realizing it now, to be able to stay centered. Being unattached does not mean that I am ‘emotionless’, it means that I am not talking from my emotions but from a place of clarity and integrity.
It is not my job to judge others’ behaviour but it is definitely my responsibility to express my dislike otherwise it ripples into illnesses and/or into situations where it does not belong.
Staying in the Loving does not mean that I am lovey-dovey and nicey at all. It only means that I communicate in a way that I do not blame or try to make the other person wrong. I just say what I am experiencing, unattached to what the other person may do in response, in a way that is aligned with my values.
I found this article in the New York Times. It talks about the difference of being aggressive and assertive which is similar to what I wrote above. LINK TO ARTICLE
What is DELENTA?
So, DELENTA is an online coaching platform that has it all. I highly recommend using the platform and finding fantastic coaches there like the Speakers Insight Girls! <3
Maruja Mallo
MY INSPIRATIONS VOL7.
I love
Maruja Mallo because of her colours and d vivid images. As one of the surrealistic painters, she created powerful images about her experiences of the time she lived in. I love her squarie but full figures, the strong colours and shades that all say something, they hold a message to be read.
The Therapeutic-Art Enrichment Group Program can help you bring awareness and light to those places in your consciousness where blocks to your fulfilment hide and it will replenishes your Soul.
Coaching as a creative process
For me, coaching/guiding is a creative process of continuous discovering. It is similar to treasure hunting. At every station, you, the client, discover something new about yourself that will point you to the next clue.
It is an exciting and nerve-racking process at the same time. As a coach/guide, I am there with you at every step of the way supporting you to understand what the clue may want to communicate with you and where the next clue may lie ahead. I am walking this creative and exhilarating journey with you.
Originally posted in April, 2020
The ART of Connecting
Well, I am not particularly good at ‘befriending’, I don’t think, anyway.
I find meeting new people in a social setting rather awkward. I can never ask the right questions, mostly because I am not really interested in other people’s jobs and marital status. I eventually find myself playing at the kids’ table or being alone looking at the wallpaper.
When I meet new people, I am excited to know people’s thoughts on Life and the way they see themselves, not their political agenda or their shopping list. Every person is a unique being with vastness of experiences and wisdom that I do not have. Except that in most cases it is buried under heavy social conditioning.
ART cannot lie. Every picture tells a story. Each piece of ARTWORK depicts its creator in the most unique way. It reflects the disturbances of the Ego-mind and the yearnings of the Soul.
I created this drawing as a response to my family’s sweet addiction! 
I created this drawing when I first shared my drawings on FB. 
I let you decide what this pic is about! 🙂 
This pic depicts the start of menopause. 
This drawing depicts a time when I felt betrayed. 
This drawing depicts my life in our garden.
When I look at someone’s artwork without trying to analyse it, I get a feel for the person who created it. I would not know their job or marital status, but I would be introduced to a small aspect of their being.
Looking at someone’s artwork allows me to connect with the ‘artist’ in a meaningful way.
Discussing is not enough!
This lovely therapist explains how emotions that are trapped in your body can be released by ‘physical movement’. She talks extensively about the different types of anxiety related issues and how you can deal with them ‘hands on’.
Personally, I find ‘releasing trough expressing’ the best therapy. I also believe in the healing power of meditative practices and alternative medicine.
In this video she, once again talks about how to use our bodies to move through emotionally difficult and painful experiences.
What is ART for?
As I see, most artists are a bit of loners. We are used to making art in our own space, mostly alone. They stand/sit countless hours in front of an easel/sawing machine and create endlessly.
I am a member of numerous artsy FACEBOOK GROUPS. When I run through my feed I marvel in amazement at the bounty of unique artwork of all sorts. They are just breathtakingly creative!
The first question comes to mind is: ‘What is it all for?”
I think that visual art can be a super cool addition to a home decoration. It is exciting to look at art. I visit (used to)art museums a lot. I would not want to look at the same artwork all the time, though. I understand that for many, Art is a kind of investment.
The question I often ponder over is what is ART’s REAL raíson’d etre?
There was a moment when I thought I wanted to become an artist. I took different classes to learn the skills. I tried out all different ways of making art from making watercolour paintings to making pastel one to embroidery. I still love them all but I never became a ‘real’ artist. The reason is that I did not see the point of becoming an artist. Selling art work is not particularly easy plus I could not see the point of having my artwork hanging on somebody’s wall or a mug. It can be fun but ART I make must have a some ‘selfish’ meaning to it.
When I look at a piece of artwork, I always wonder what it is that the Artist wanted to tell me with his/her ART. Every picture/photo tells a story … or not. Some artwork only tries to copy reality that do not inspire me at all. But hey, they look great!
I love, personally, when ART is used to express one’s inner world, a unique way of seeing the world, or to say something that words cannot cover. I immediately feel connected to the Artist. I am allow into the intimate world of a personal space.
We could intentionally use ART to connect! It could connect us on so many different levels. We could share moments of joy of creating. My ancestors used to sit around the fire making things – clothing, bedding, tools, etc. As they were creating they were also telling stories and making memories. But most importantly they were relating by being part of each others’ lives.
ART CAN HELP US CONNECT!
ART connects me to self and others in a deep and meaningful way.
So, let’s make some sweet art with the intention to tap into our own depth and connect to others from there.
Below you can find out more about the different ART classes I run with the intention to CONNECT and ENJOY making ART.
Prosperity
“True prosperity is not making money or putting out goods or developing prosperity. It is determining what our souls require in order to cause them to unfold more of God (Divine);”
Myrtle Fillmore, Healing Letters, Unity Books
Considered in the broadest sense, prosperity is ‘spiritual wellbeing’. This involves the whole experience of healing life, satisfying love, abiding peace and harmony, as well as a sufficiency (of every good thing).
Paul Hasselbeck, Spiritual Economics
Therefore, prosperity is a state of consciousness.
WEALTH DYNAMICS
Well, deep down we all want to get rich so we can do the things that are meaningful to us. Very often though we do not realise that we do not need to do something to pay the bills or win the lottery to free up time for the things that we love doing.
According to Roger Hamilton (Wealth Dynamics & GeniusU), we all have an innate and natural way to do things that not only pleases us but when we are in the ‘flow’, it generate wealth for us, too.
In this early video Roger explains what the 9 types are and explains how you can recognise which one is your type. In case you are not sure about your type, on his website you can do a test that reveals your type. CLICK
During the THERAPEUTIC ART ENRICHMENT GROUP PROGRAM we investigate our Wealth Dynamic Profile and create an action plan around it. The Program will support you to take ACTIVE steps toward finding and creating meaningful and fulfilling work activities for yourself
My thoughts on IKIGAI, the reason for being (LINK CLICK)
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Benefits
- Gain deeper awareness of yourself – your thoughts and behavioural patterns that may or may not be supporting you in living the life you wish for yourself.
- Become aware of your strengths, unique abilities, and your true interests, as well as some of your hindering patterns.
- Discover your Essence – the core of who you are. Building on that, we enquire about your passion, purpose and true vocation.
- Step towards your dreams using the supportive power of the group.
- HAVE OODLES OF FUN!
My thoughts on IKIGAI
My country of origin was under communist leaderships for about 50 years. After the ‘bloodless revolution’ in 1989, people became free to chose what to do with their lives. However, the decades of ‘socialistic parenting’ resulted in people having no idea how to make well-founded and mature choices about their lives any more.
‘COMMON SCHEMES’ is the expression I would use to describe how majority of people chose professions and build businesses in the country. There are only two ways to chose a profession here – either to create a fashionable lucrative business or to become an ‘agent’ at the customer service department of one of the many international companies.
What is IKIGAI?
MY THOUGHTS ON IKIGAI
Finding our path to generating wealth is not about knowing how to generate money but finding out who we are and how to follow the right path for out ‘type’.
Wealth Dynamics Profiles show us what direction to take. Finding our IKIGAI helpS us follow that direction with focus and clarity on what our mission.
To get a jumpstart, we look at our IKIGAI clusters and ask ourselves the question: ‘What is no longer relevant?’
With this question we weed out ideas that hinder us: we are often attached to some ideas of what we want to do with our lives, what kind of job we want to do. These attachments are often based on our upbringing or more often than not on the way we see ourselves. These two attachments are deep traps that hinder our finding our our IKIGAI.
An ever deepening self-knowledge is key for realizing your IKIGAI.
(Originally written in May, 2020)